Strap-on sex toys : how to select the right one ?

When it comes to selecting the right strap-on sex toy for your harness play, you can easily find hundreds of sex toys in stores and on adult websites – and that huge variety can make it difficult to decide which dildo is going to be the perfect fit for you. Is it going to fit my harness? Is it going to remain stable during lovemaking? Will it feel good for me, as well as for my girlfriend?

Don’t worry – searching for the right strap-on sex toy for your harness can be a fun and pleasurable decision to make! Let’s break down the different factors you will want to consider while choosing your new sex toy, so you can feel confident in your choice.

Shape: A strap-on sex toy that is ideal to be used in a harness is one with a flared base, such as the ones you see here, so that the ring of the harness holds the dildo in place with stability and security. This should not be confused with an older-style suction cup base, though – those styles are not meant to be worn in a strap-on, so will likely not perform the way you would expect! The base of the dildo should have a solid, wider base, to keep it from pulling out of the harness.

Large Base

Harness O’ring

Size: You’ll want to make note of the size of the ring in your harness, so you can plan for the perfect fit with your toy. Harnesses with flexible rings (here) (like SpareParts HardWear’s harnesses can fit a wider range of sizes, which is perfect for those whose lovers enjoy different sizes and shapes of toys on different days. Some harnesses also have a selection of rigid rings rather than a flexible one; these must be switched out to best fit the toy being used.

If you and your lover prefer a much more slender toy, the addition of a stabilizer ring can make a tremendous difference in how secure your dildo fits into your harness. Stabilizer rings consist of an opening in a larger “pad”; the sex toy is inserted through the opening, to create a larger base for the toy, similar to how a washer works for a bolt.

We suggest purchasing a stabilizer that is shaped for the harness, whenever you select a toy that is smaller or thinner in size (two fingers or smaller), in order to make sure that your toy stays in place, just the way you want it to. You don’t want your dildo to slip through the ring and cause an interruption in your lovemaking!

Stabilizer for harness

Base: Most toys come with a flat base – our Sex Toy Five is a great example of this: https://www.wetforher.com/sex-toys-for-strap-on/83-lesbian-sex-toy-strap-on-five-purple-798304168648.html. However, some dildo bases, like the base on our Fusion sex toy are shaped to offer more stimulation to the vulva and clitoris, to create pleasure for the wearer. In general, you may want to choose a dildo with a flatter base if you prefer to have it centered higher up on the pubic mound or lower abdomen, since the additional curves may not feel comfortable against those parts of the body. You may also want to use a plain base if you like more diffuse, overall pressure, rather than specific clitoral stimulation. However, if you’d like to receive pleasure even as you’re giving it, a contoured-base toy like our Fusion might be perfect. (Helpful Tip: If you use a contoured-base toy, a little bit of lubricant between your body and the base of the toy will help it feel great, and not cause friction during your love play).

Fusion base

Flat Base

A helpful option for many women is to purchase a bundled set that includes both the harness and a toy. This assures you the toy will fit the harness perfectly, and because they are two separate items, you can easily use the dildo with other harnesses (and the harness with other toys). Make sure you’re selecting a good quality set, from manufacturers who use high-quality materials, and whose harnesses are well made and have excellent reviews from users. The SpareParts and Rodeoh harnesses we offer in our bundled kits are perfect examples of harnesses created by – and made for – women (https://www.wetforher.com/24-harnesss-pack-strap-on-sex-toys). And always double-check that the size of the harness works for your body, and that the toy is the right size, to give you and your lover the pleasure you both deserve!